Accept and treasure each person as they are, rather than trying to make them fit your expectations
Relate to others in such a way that those you want to be with are more likely to want to be with you.
Identify what you value most deeply in another, and celebrate the positive without getting trapped in the negative.
Step out of needing to "be right" or "in control" and discover how everyone in the family can win by helping each other.
State your own ideas and feelings as such, in ways that others can hear more easily. Learn how to listen in such a way that you truly hear the other at a deep level.
Transform power struggles, arguments, and antagonisms into relationships of mutual acceptance and respect. Move away from conflict toward supporting each other's needs.
Find ways to heal old rifts, and also heal your own hurt feelings that are entangled with them.
Hear and become more responsive to family messages, and move into co-creating your family's future with attitudes of hope and joy.
Move toward more loving communications.
Take control of your emotional life rather than being at the mercy of out-of-control emotions.
Move from antagonistic, competitive, or indifferent interactions toward more respectful, mutually caring ones.
Gain a deeper sense of which of your actions are genuinely gratifying to you and to others, and which cause avoidable problems, worry, distress, or bad feelings.
Listen and communicate more effectively in ways that allow you and others to hear each others' deep inner concerns and hidden feelings.
Handle difficult or confusing situations more effectively.
Learn to express your love and other feelings in ways that others can hear and feel.